Few events in life are as painful as the death of your spouse. You may be uncertain you will survive this overwhelming loss. You are beginning a journey that is frightening and lonely.
You may feel that you are uncertain of who you are. This is a result of losing your campanion whom you've shared life with. You have lost a part of yourself. Your grief is unique because no one had the same relationship you had with your spouse. As a result, you will grieve in your own special way.
Express your grief openly. Share your feelings of loss and loneliness, and the things you miss about your spouse. Talk about the person your husband or wife was. Whatever you do, don't ignore your grief.
Experiencing the death of your spouse affects your heart and spirit. It will take a great deal of energy and effort to heal. Expressing your emotions to others can help you in this difficult time. Think things through, you will be fatigued from your feelings of sadness. Take time with things that remind you of your spouse. They may evoke feelings of sadness and painful emotions.
Be compassionate with yourself. Treasure memories to comfort you, but explore those that may trouble you. They are a lasting part of the relationship you had with a very special person in your life. Remember-healing in grief doesn't mean forgetting your spouse and the life you shared.